I trusted the girl and married her and now i feel ashamed to tell my wife as my wife

I trusted the girl and married her and now i feel ashamed to tell my wife as my wife.
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My wife comes from a poor family. I married her one year before and my wife gave birth to a baby girl exactly 9 months and 3 days after our marriage. Since my inlaws were not well worth i beared both side expence, and alhamdulillah nor i demanded anything nor i did take anything from them. I had a doubt with my wives charector, i waited for the delivery as it may create problems with the new born. After the baby birth i asked her about her passed (Before marriage). With great difficulty she narrated her passed which is as stated below:-

One boy( relative) helped her parents by giving some money when they were in need of it. then he started loving her, thinking that this boy will help her parents she started loving him.She had an affair with him for nearly 9 months, to say uptill three months before our marriage. Everyday he used to drop my wife from college to very near her house. They had been to some tourist spot along with her girl friends once. After her affair was 3 months older he forced her to go to a long drive alone with her. But my wife refused to go. He used to promise her to get marry very soon. One day as usual when he was dropping my wife to her house, he offered a bottle of juice. My wife started drinking without knowing what was in. After she had drank half the juice she became unconcious. Then what happened she did not know. My wife was raped by her love. After one hour he dropped her near her house as usual. He told her that she was asleep. My wife came to know about this later. Next day she went to her love and asked why did he do this as she had promised to marry him. Then he apolagised and promised her to marry her at any cost after 2 years. So again the love continued. He used to demand the money he had given to her parents and force her to have intercourse, in the mean time he used to promise my wife to get married very soon. They use to have intercourse. This took place for 5 times as per my wife. Almost Evryday they two used to kiss. This matter was not known to my wifes parents. Then came other propozals for marriage. Unknowingly to her parents my wife requested her love to marry her, but he refused and demanded 2 years more time. My wife atlast told her aunt and brother that she had an affair with that boy.My wifes aunt and brother know that only affair was there they did not know about the intercourse. They tried a lot but in vain. the boy did not agree. Atlast they convinced my wife to marry me. Then came our marriage, then baby and now.....

I trusted the girl and married her and now i feel ashamed to tell my wife as my wife. I feel ashamed to take her out to relatives. In my complete unmarried life i had not touched a girl as this is not permitted in islam. I just want to know wheather my baby is jaayaz, my wife is jaayaz. what to do with my wife. According to my wife the baby is mine, as the two culprits used condoms while having intercourse.( informed by my wife) I keep thinking and i have last my sleep, my piece and i have become sick.I am feeling great difficulty in leading my married life. My wife was my fathers choice and i respect my parents a lot, they are everything for me in this world along with ibadath. For your information my wife is very good to my prents. She treats her very well, obliges them and help them in all sence.

As per islam and hadith suggest me what to do?  This topic is known to me, my wife, that boy & allah the great.

I will wait for your reply insha allah. Suggest me so that what i do will give maqfirath to my parents and me insha allah.

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Zina before marriage
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Your Question: I just want to know wheather my baby is jaayaz, my wife is jaayaz. what to do with my wife.
Dear and beloved brother in Islam, as long as all the obligatory conditions of an Islamic nikaah between you and your wife were fulfilled, rest absolutely assured that the past deeds of your wife have absolutely no bearings on the validity of your marriageyour marriage and the child resulting from that marriage would be deemed absolutely lawful and legal in the Sight of Shariah Law and of Allah Subhanah.

Your Question: ..what to do with my wife.
If one has married a woman who one later finds out was involved physically with another man before their marriage..and the husband has knowledge that his wife had subsequently turned unto her Lord in sincere taubah and sought sincere forgiveness for her manifest transgression..it would only be akin to piety and righteousness in the Sight of Allah Subhanah, and a character becoming of a believer that he absolutely disregard that past sin of his wife, and neither hint nor remind her or even himself of that sin that transpired in her past.

If one looks in ones own past, one will find a multitude of sins one might have done which the Lord Most Merciful has screened from being exposed..Just as one wishes that the Lord would forgive them their past sins, it would only be piety and righteousness in the Sight of Allah if the husband were to forgive and overlook the past deeds of his wife, deeds for which she has already sought sincere repentance.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 24 Surah Noor verse 22:
let them forgive and overlook: do you not wish that Allah should forgive you? For Allah is Oft-Forgiving Most Merciful.

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 2.373 Narrated by Usama bin Zaid
The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: Allah is merciful only to those of His slaves who are merciful (to others)."

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.26 Narrated by Abu Huraira
Allah's Messenger (saws) said: "Whoever is not merciful to others will not be treated mercifully (by the Lord Most Gracious, Most High)."

Respected brother in Islam, whatever deeds your wife might have done in her past in ignorance, if you are of the opinion that she is sincerely repentant at her past deeds, and she has sought sincere forgiveness for her transgressions from her Lord..it would only be akin to piety and righteousness on your part that you absolutely disregard and forgive her her past deeds, just as you would wish that Allah Subhanah would forgive you your past sins..and thus save your marriage.

But if you feel that your wife is neither ashamed nor repentant at her past abomination of zina, and given a chance she would indulge in the same again..it would be best for you to immediately distance yourself through divorce from such an evil and impious women who neither fears Allah nor the Last Day.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

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