Should I Leave My Wife If My Parents Order To Do So?

Leave wife if parents order
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SalamAlaikum,Respected Brother.
Is it an authentic narration ( Hadith ) that one should leave one`s wife and children if one`s Parents order to do so ?? i came across this Hadith few days back , just wanted to know whether it is in Bokhari and Muslim ??
Please reply ASAP.
Jazak Allah. 

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Leave wife if parents order
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Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 4.583 (part) Narrated by Ibn Abbas
After Ismael's mother (Hajra) had died, Prophet Ibraheem (a.s.) came after Ismael's marriage in order to see his family that he had left before, but he did not find Ismael there. When he asked Ismael's wife about him, she replied, 'He has gone in search of our livelihood.' Then he asked her about their way of living and their condition, and she replied, 'We are living in misery; we are living in hardship and destitution,' complaining to him. He said, 'When your husband returns, convey my salutation to him and tell him to change the threshold of the gate (of his house).' When Ismael came, he seemed to have felt something unusual, so he asked his wife, 'Has anyone visited you?' She replied, 'Yes, an old man of so-and-so description came and asked me about you and I informed him, and he asked about our state of living, and I told him that we were living in a hardship and poverty.' On that Ishmael said, 'Did he advise you anything?' She replied, 'Yes, he told me to convey his salutation to you and to tell you to change the threshold of your gate.' Ismael said, 'It was my father, and he has ordered me to divorce you. Go back to your family.' So, Ismael divorced her and married another woman from amongst them (i.e. Jurhum).

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4940 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar
I had a wife whom I loved but whom my father, Umar disliked. He told me to divorce her and when I refused, Umar went to Allah's Messenger (saws) and mentioned the matter to him. Allah's Messenger (saws) then told me to divorce her.

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4928 Narrated by Abud Darda
When a man came to him and said, "I have a wife whom my mother commands me to divorce," he replied to him that he had heard Allah's Messenger (saws) say, "A parent is the best of the gates of Paradise; so if you wish, keep to the gate, or lose it."

There are indeed several authentic narrations, whereby the Messenger of Allah (saws) recommended that the husband divorce his wife because the parents of the husband had commanded their son to do so.

But one must try to understand the state of the believing and pious parents like Prophet Ibraheem (a.s.) and Hadrat Umar (r.a.), for it is inconceivable that they would advise their children to divorce their wives for trivial or petty reasons.

If a parent is God-fearing and pious, and commands their children to divorce their wives because of a valid reason in the deen, then they should be obeyed. But if the parents command their children to divorce their righteous wives for petty reasons like money, or caste, or looks, or color, etc.; then there is no sin on the son if he does not obey them in this matter.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

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